This reflective stage can feel painful and uncomfortable, but it’s a gift at its core.
“It can feel like you have to start all over again, and the routes you probably used when you were younger might not be open to you anymore.
It doesn’t help that most of your friends are likely to be coupled up, so it’s not uncommon to feel isolated and unsure where to start.
The break-up of a relationship can be very damaging to our self-esteem, particularly when it comes to feeling attractive and sexy.
What’s more, in the security and intimacy of a long-term relationship, looking after our appearance can become a low priority; we may get out of the habit of looking for clothes that really suit us, or of spending time on grooming, because we associate these habits with our younger and (maybe) vainer selves.
However, there’s nothing more futile than getting back into dating or a relationship before you’re emotionally ready. My mom has this saying, “The only time you should be dating is when you know you don’t need to be dating.” She’s a wise lady because it’s true.