If we compute “e Harmony status” — how often a user is asked out by their matches — we find it also follows this pattern: Everyone prefers high-status users, but high-status users show a stronger preference for other high-status users.
(It’s possible that they don’t really feel a stronger preference, but merely feel more confident in their ability to win a fellow high-status mate.) On the other hand, traits whose optimal value is more arguable — like whether you have children or what religion you follow — tend to follow the first pattern.
A dysfunctional relationship is one that does not support cognitive, emotional, and behavioral adjustment among its participants.
For example, dependent individuals may be attracted to other individuals who enable or encourage helplessness or dependence.
Similarly, a person who is passive and another who is dominant may seem like a match.
The passive individual may even seek out a dominant partner.
Can two people who are opposites still be compatible?