You see, there’s confidence and then there’s arrogance. You’re telling everyone that you have no growing left to do.
Illicit Encounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity, studied over 400,000 profiles on their site to find what men and women were both looking for from their ideal partner, as well as how they described themselves.
If you’re a woman, then the key words to include on your profile are “sexy”, “honest” and “confident” as 15%, 10% and 7% of men respectively are after these traits more so than anything else.
There’s nothing wrong with being confident or in presenting yourself as a good catch. My profile had a whiff of self-satisfied superiority. I had taken what I perceived to be the emasculation of the American male and turned my rejection of it into a mission. No one wants to walk on eggshells when they’re getting to know you. “I want someone who’s not wedded to her job” might turn off a good match who is temporarily burdened with a long workday. If I hadn’t, she never would have sent so much as an emotigram. After spending his 20s and 30s in the pursuit of Truth, he reverted to the Catholic faith.
But after a few weeks of that the responses tapered off. I think we men sense deep down that we need to be assertive, but unless we are taught how to do it respectfully we fall back into caveman mode. Don’t try to out-man the other guy Focus on why you’re a good catch, not why other men aren’t up to snuff. I can hold this chip on my shoulder all day and not get tired! No one wants to contact someone who sounds as if they are fed up with certain behavior. Pickups are Tuesdays and Fridays; please call to schedule bulk items. Avoid sweeping statements about life issues Sweeping statements can appear judgmental. In the end it was only because I viewed her profile that she felt comfortable contacting me.
Interestingly, many men (4%) like women who describe themselves as curvy, but only 0.6% of women describe themselves in this way.