By Tracy Achen If you are thinking about dating during divorce ... You may think that you are free to start a new relationship once the decision is made to separate or divorce.
But it is wise to hold off on the dating scene until after your divorce is finalized for a number of strategic, legal, and emotional reasons.
Children must begin the process of living in two houses, often have to change schools, and they also must learn the complex task of remembering what can and cannot be spoken about in either home.
Dating during divorce with children
Every once in a while I am asked by clients whether or not they should get into a relationship during the divorce proceeding.
This issue of dating during a divorce can either be a non-issue or a serious one. Our role as family law lawyers is to help guide our clients through a divorce proceeding.
In addition, in some states the new relationship may be considered in the division of property or alimony determinations, so the dating spouse may not get as much as they want out of the divorce depending on the new partner's financial circumstances.
This is especially true if the dating spouse begins cohabitating with their new partner during the divorce process.
Some fathers feel unsure about how to spend blocks of time with their children without a woman present; some mothers are anxious to quickly introduce a “better role model” to their children and have the family that wasn’t possible with the children’s father.