His parents even want dowry which my parents are unable to provide. On the average I get about three such queries every day and they make me sad and angry. I feel – what in the name of God are we doing to our younger generation? It’s not about choosing your boyfriend or girlfriend over your parents. If neither you nor your boyfriend/girlfriend is earning – work on that before working on anything else.
Option #2: Decide that you won’t be able to adjust to the above reality of a reduced standard of living and say goodbye to the man/woman you love. Let’s take the example of your parents’ decision of allowing you to marry your girlfriend/boyfriend.
There’s nothing wrong with choosing either of these options. Make a rational, practical and well-thought out decision, and prepare yourself mentally for the consequences. That analysis might happen in our minds entirely unconsciously. I think it’s very clear that their child’s happiness – while important – is not a determining factor for them so far as this decision is concerned.
The deepest differences between Muslims and Westerners concern not politics but sexuality.
Each side has a long history of looking at the other's sexual mores with a mixture of astonishment and disgust.
Boys and girls (and don’t demand to be called men and women. Of course the first step is to try to convince your parents. However, if it proves impossible, you need to take a stand – one way or the other. I’m sorry, but there are no ways of going against reality.