Preface: This is not a how-to-parent-older-adopted-kids blog post. Because the truth is, as you all know, that unless you have lived it, you will probably never get it. Oh, how we parents of trauma kids wish that weren’t so. ) You chose this road in the first place because you have good in you. Everyone on the outside will want to be your kid’s hero, to rescue the poor, troubled orphan that you supposedly “just couldn’t get through to.” And it will truly suck to accept it.
This is not a why-kids-of-trauma-inflict-trauma post. This is not even a this-is-what-life-is-like-with-trauma-kids post. And if you’re reading this because your friend or family member passed it along, now’s your chance to erase your presumptions and shred your judgments and just take a listen and try to understand. But the thing is, the is, those on the outside, those who swoop in to “save,” well, they have it easy. And even if your kid never acknowledges it, even if they never come around, even if you never live to see their healing, even if someone else claims credit, YOU’VE DONE AN AMAZING THING. You’ve made tough choices for your kid when others just took the easy road.
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